3 Attributes to know who are your friends

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Horlar626
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May 29th, 2021, 2:12 am

I have come to believe that in life, we all need those people we can trust, confide in and share our deep heartfelt burdens and concerns. The true test of manhood and womanhood is hence measured by the quality of people that are at your disposal because, friends can either make or mar your life. There is a saying that goes, "Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are." There is another that says, 'birds of a feather flock together.' One other striking saying is, "Iron sharpens iron so, a man can also sharpen the countenance of his friend."



Seeing then that the quality of life that we can have as individuals is largely dependant on the friends we have, keep and associate with; we must therefore take a look at some attributes that defines whether someone is a friend or not. These attributes will go a long way to help define the coordinates for our voyage towards a glorious destiny. The next paragraph begins with these attributes. These attributes may not resonant frequently with the views of most but it would be instructive if you go through it without any prejudice, as you will never remain the same again.

1. A friend is one whose opinion you value or hold in high esteem; A friend is someone whose opinion you hold in high esteem or regard. This person can be your age mate, older than you or younger than you as the case maybe but you have come to that place where you recognize that such a person has a particular wisdom, grace or skill which you need in order to forge ahead faster in life and you have accepted to come to them for help.


We must come to that place where we realize that we can never know everything and as a matter of fact, everyone is ignorant on something thus, there is a need to maintain a humble disposition to learn. If you want to be a billionaire and you see one, you need to humble yourself to ask how he or she is making it happen. Maybe, you are a business man and you are not able to break even and you see someone making it in the same business then, humble yourself and ask for help so that you can learn the hidden secret. There are secrets to everything in life, no one becomes great by mistake, it is by rules, principles and diligence that they employ which can be simply be regarded as secrets.
If these secrets are grasped by anyone, it will produce the same results, the location or individual notwithstanding, it is all about the right application of these secrets. Thus, identify those persons that have what you admire, desire or seek and learn from them so that you can be relevant in your sphere of influence since there is nothing new under the sun. It is said that whatever has been is what shall be and whatever is, is what shall be and there is no new thing under the sun.

2. A friend is someone that you imitate; A friend is someone you consciously or unconsciously imitate, copy, or pattern your life after. Now, as I said, most of these attributes may not flow freely with many but if you can bear with me a little longer, you will get it perfectly besides, one of the mark of highly effective individuals is that they remain open to learning and new knowledge. Now, owing to the fact that many have become used to the term mentor, they feel that mentors are not friends but some stand alone men and women who just seek to advice or counsel people. But I say unto you that even our so called mentors are our friends. This is because, they want us to be better.
I need to define who a friend is so that we can be properly guided on this voyage. According to the Advanced English dictionary, a friend is a person who supports an organization, a charity, etc., especially by giving or raising money; a person who supports a particular idea, etc. Thus, if a person has the capacity to support your ideas or whatever you need per time which could be an advice or a connection, is therefore termed a friend. It doesn't matter if he has more money, fame or possessions than you, what is needful and most important at that point in time is the ability to help you succeed in your good idea or plan.

So, having understood from the definition who a friend is, we will add by saying that when you consciously or unconsciously imitate, copy, or pattern your life after someone who probably has what you want then, that person is your friend. Now, these persons no matter how lowly others may see them, they are people whose counsel or advice you hardly question or reflute. Now, it is not because you don't have a little knowledge in what they say to you but because, they have varstly more knowledge or let me say insight in that particular matter of discourse. They give you counsel based on the years of experience by shear dint of practice that they have acquired in such fields or by the wisdom that God has given them uniquely.
These men are known for their wisdom just as Ahithophel was to King David in the time of old. For it is written that the words, advice or counsel of Ahithophel was as that of God himself. In order words, whatever he said was final and you could bank on those words because it never failed thus, such a man can be termed a friend as he was to King David.

3. A friend is one that you share your secret with; A friend is one that you have taken into confidence. Most at times we hear a married woman say things like he has become my friend and a confidant; talking about the husband now. This is because, she has come to trust him with her life and can confide even the most sensitive and sacred matters to him. In order words, she shares her secrets with him without reservation. Thus, when you have such persons, they are your friends.
A friend speaks into your life because by reason of the trust, respect, honour and value you place on them; you allow them to bring correction, reproof and instruction to you without any rancour as the saying goes, 'A friend must show himself friendly.' These reproofs of which you receive with all meekness of heart with or without much contention is simply out of the bond of friendship between both of you. Seeing that the voice of the person with which you listen to, will determine to a great extent where you will end in life, it behoves us to choose carefully and wisely those with whom we associate with or grant such privileges as to speak, guide, instruct and counsel us.

There is a story told of two friends in the bible and that is Ammon and Jonadab as seen in second Samuel chapter thirteen that Jonadab led Ammon astray. Ammon developed a strange feeling for Tamar, Absalom's sister and since he didn't know how he could fulfill his evil agenda, his friend Jonadab instead of rebuking him for thinking such evil toward her sister, he rather helped him with an advice to perpetrate the act. He adviced Ammon to pretend to be sick and when King David his father comes, he should request that Tamar should come and cook for him then, he can fulfill his evil lost of having s3x with her.
He succeeded in his plans but it ended up in his been killed by Absalom, Tamar's brother. So, your friend can make or mar your life. Ammon was to become the next King after David since he was the heir apparent to the throne but his bad terminated that dream. Let us be careful with the type of friends we keep.

What about the story of Rehoboam and his friends? Rehoboam was King Solomon's son and after he took over from his father, the Israelites came to him and requested that the yoke that was laid upon them by his father be lessened. Rehoboam told them to come back again and he will give them a reply. Rehoboam requested for the advice from the elders of the land who ruled in the time of his father King Solomon and they told him to oblige or give into the people's demand but the friends of Rehoboam gave him a contrary advice. They told King Rehoboam that he should reply and say that his hand shall be thicker than his father's tigh. That his father scourged them with whips but he will scourge them with scorpions.

This led to the division of the kingdom of Israel from twelve tribes to ten tribes which was controlled by Jeroboam and two tribes which was controlled by Rehoboam, you can see all these in first Kings chapter twelve. Jeroboam by the way was King Solomon's General in Israel's Army. King Solomon however became jealous because of Jeroboam's exploits in battle and wanted to kill him. Jeroboam therefore escaped to Egypt and was there until King Solomon died. Jeroboam came back after King Solomon had died and he reclaimed the kingship as prophesied by prophet Ahijah to him before he went on exile.
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May 29th, 2021, 3:40 am

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